1 00:00:00,090 --> 00:00:00,990 - Through these... 2 00:00:03,310 --> 00:00:05,740 I'm gonna go through this briefly. 3 00:00:05,740 --> 00:00:08,940 And what I would love for you to do is open up your chat. 4 00:00:08,940 --> 00:00:11,900 And when you hear something that you think, yes, 5 00:00:11,900 --> 00:00:14,500 I've seen an example of that in my students. 6 00:00:14,500 --> 00:00:16,730 I would love for you to write that in the chat. 7 00:00:16,730 --> 00:00:19,890 And you could either write, you know, I've seen empathy, 8 00:00:19,890 --> 00:00:23,690 or you could write, a snippet of a way 9 00:00:23,690 --> 00:00:25,800 in which you saw that. 10 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,740 So Kylene Beers would say that this generation of kids 11 00:00:28,740 --> 00:00:31,100 is more empathic and compassionate. 12 00:00:31,100 --> 00:00:35,000 They have practiced and are more aware of the fact 13 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,840 that when they see somebody in their community behaving 14 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:41,280 in a certain way or responding in a certain way, 15 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,100 they're actually more aware than they were prior 16 00:00:44,100 --> 00:00:47,360 to this experience, that that person is likely facing 17 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:48,666 some kind of stress. 18 00:00:48,666 --> 00:00:52,600 There's, I don't know everything about the story 19 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:54,820 of everyone in my community. 20 00:00:54,820 --> 00:00:56,730 Our students are more patient. 21 00:00:56,730 --> 00:00:58,940 They have practiced being bored. 22 00:00:58,940 --> 00:01:02,080 And I would have talked to you before the pandemic 23 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,380 about how worried I am that this generation of kids 24 00:01:05,380 --> 00:01:06,670 is never bored. 25 00:01:06,670 --> 00:01:09,790 I was worried that we filled every nook and cranny, 26 00:01:09,790 --> 00:01:11,560 where they might have had a wait a minute 27 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:14,940 or delay gratification or not be entertained, 28 00:01:14,940 --> 00:01:17,070 that we were filling all those nooks and crannies 29 00:01:17,070 --> 00:01:21,516 with technology, as opposed to just allowing boredom 30 00:01:21,516 --> 00:01:25,850 to turn into innovation and creativity and all 31 00:01:25,850 --> 00:01:27,520 of the brilliance that happens. 32 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:31,290 To grow a healthy brain, you need to be bored. 33 00:01:31,290 --> 00:01:34,580 And so, unfortunately, unfortunately our kids have 34 00:01:34,580 --> 00:01:37,343 had no choice, but to practice being bored. 35 00:01:38,290 --> 00:01:41,910 Unfortunately we have all practiced grieving. 36 00:01:41,910 --> 00:01:45,590 Every single one of us have had small and medium losses, 37 00:01:45,590 --> 00:01:48,110 and many, many of us have had big losses. 38 00:01:48,110 --> 00:01:51,390 And so we've learned lessons about how to grieve well, 39 00:01:51,390 --> 00:01:53,749 and frankly, I think in our culture, we could use some work 40 00:01:53,749 --> 00:01:55,448 on grieving well. 41 00:01:55,448 --> 00:01:58,300 We've, you know, one of the things I've noticed 42 00:01:58,300 --> 00:02:02,370 is that we've really, I think in a whole deeper way, 43 00:02:02,370 --> 00:02:06,730 understood that grief is not a place for competition. 44 00:02:06,730 --> 00:02:08,710 We don't need to look at a group of people 45 00:02:08,710 --> 00:02:11,740 and decide whose grief is worse and give 46 00:02:11,740 --> 00:02:15,340 our validation support and compassion to that. 47 00:02:15,340 --> 00:02:18,200 Everyone's loss is their own and is worthy 48 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,150 of support, validation, and connection. 49 00:02:21,150 --> 00:02:25,985 Our students have very likely had to really think about 50 00:02:25,985 --> 00:02:29,000 things that they might've taken for granted before. 51 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:31,620 They're appreciative of things that they just assumed 52 00:02:31,620 --> 00:02:32,730 would be there. 53 00:02:32,730 --> 00:02:36,210 And that has maybe shifted their perspective 54 00:02:36,210 --> 00:02:38,470 and reset their priorities in a way 55 00:02:38,470 --> 00:02:41,603 that we might argue would be a little bit healthier. 56 00:02:42,570 --> 00:02:47,030 We have had no choice, but to sit with powerful emotion, 57 00:02:47,030 --> 00:02:52,030 we couldn't as adults swoop in and remove the problem 58 00:02:52,058 --> 00:02:56,610 as a way to remove distress and help our kids feel better. 59 00:02:56,610 --> 00:02:59,990 Many, many times parents and people who work in schools 60 00:02:59,990 --> 00:03:03,890 had no choice, but to just sit with powerful emotion, 61 00:03:03,890 --> 00:03:07,610 practice, putting words to it, validating it, 62 00:03:07,610 --> 00:03:10,610 supporting it and teaching how to cope with it 63 00:03:10,610 --> 00:03:13,700 because we couldn't change the circumstance. 64 00:03:13,700 --> 00:03:16,620 That is actually how we build powerfully 65 00:03:16,620 --> 00:03:18,290 strong resilient people. 66 00:03:18,290 --> 00:03:22,060 So tons of practice has just happened in that regard. 67 00:03:22,060 --> 00:03:25,540 We've asked our students even preschool and kindergartners 68 00:03:25,540 --> 00:03:28,680 all the way up through to be citizens, 69 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:30,040 to be global citizens. 70 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:33,460 We've asked them to do things because they benefited 71 00:03:33,460 --> 00:03:37,470 other people, not just themselves, such as mask wearing. 72 00:03:37,470 --> 00:03:41,640 And finally, we on a deeper and more complete level 73 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:44,090 than maybe we were before. 74 00:03:44,090 --> 00:03:47,600 We have challenged all of our students and ourselves 75 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:50,050 to really listen to each other, 76 00:03:50,050 --> 00:03:54,300 to ask hard questions and challenge inequity, 77 00:03:54,300 --> 00:03:57,970 regardless of whether it impacted us directly. 78 00:03:57,970 --> 00:04:00,520 So, I'm just gonna pause for a minute and let you 79 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:02,020 kind of absorb that list. 80 00:04:02,020 --> 00:04:04,110 I see people are already writing. 81 00:04:04,110 --> 00:04:07,540 Think about examples that you've seen and add them 82 00:04:07,540 --> 00:04:08,453 to the chat. 83 00:04:20,300 --> 00:04:22,373 Fantastic examples. 84 00:04:29,300 --> 00:04:32,780 So, in just taking a brief look at it, it's a powerful list. 85 00:04:32,780 --> 00:04:34,760 Keep writing don't let me stop you. 86 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,040 Read what others are writing. 87 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:39,710 I've done this exercise now 88 00:04:39,710 --> 00:04:42,870 in various professional development faculty meetings, 89 00:04:42,870 --> 00:04:44,540 different opportunities that I've had 90 00:04:44,540 --> 00:04:45,850 with schools in Vermont. 91 00:04:45,850 --> 00:04:49,530 And I estimated that I've done this with probably about five 92 00:04:49,530 --> 00:04:53,140 to 600 people who work in Vermont schools at this point. 93 00:04:53,140 --> 00:04:56,870 And every single time in the past, this has just been 94 00:04:56,870 --> 00:04:58,390 the past three months. 95 00:04:58,390 --> 00:05:00,530 I get lists and lists and lists. 96 00:05:00,530 --> 00:05:05,090 So, we in Vermont have clearly taken Kyleen's work 97 00:05:05,090 --> 00:05:09,450 and reinforced that this is true in our students. 98 00:05:09,450 --> 00:05:14,290 And so when you say that our kids, the kids of Vermont 99 00:05:14,290 --> 00:05:17,060 are behind and need to catch up, 100 00:05:17,060 --> 00:05:20,020 I absolutely respectfully disagree. 101 00:05:20,020 --> 00:05:24,010 I can't wait in fact to see what this generation 102 00:05:24,010 --> 00:05:24,920 of kids does. 103 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:26,773 They're gonna be remarkable. 104 00:05:27,610 --> 00:05:32,420 So, in thinking about that, if we're not catching up, 105 00:05:32,420 --> 00:05:34,580 if we're challenging that narrative. 106 00:05:34,580 --> 00:05:37,300 So remember when you hear a narrative, 107 00:05:37,300 --> 00:05:41,607 whether it's a community narrative or a narrative 108 00:05:41,607 --> 00:05:45,860 that a specific person is forming, or that you yourself hear 109 00:05:45,860 --> 00:05:49,530 you say something you're listening for is this resilient 110 00:05:49,530 --> 00:05:51,580 in those four characteristics. 111 00:05:51,580 --> 00:05:55,160 And if it's not, then you ask questions, 112 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:56,930 shift what you're paying attention 113 00:05:56,930 --> 00:06:00,685 to see if you might crack the foundation in 114 00:06:00,685 --> 00:06:04,240 a non resilient narrative and shifted a little bit. 115 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:06,450 If it is resilient, then you ask questions 116 00:06:06,450 --> 00:06:09,050 and pay attention in ways that reinforce it. 117 00:06:09,050 --> 00:06:11,640 So, what we're gonna do is we move into this summer, 118 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:13,770 and next year's we're going to collectively 119 00:06:13,770 --> 00:06:16,050 as a group powerfully challenge the narrative, 120 00:06:16,050 --> 00:06:18,450 and we're going to invite our students, 121 00:06:18,450 --> 00:06:21,658 our kids to take ownership over their story and say, 122 00:06:21,658 --> 00:06:25,037 no, thank you to, "we need to catch up, we're behind". 123 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:28,860 So in doing that, it's important though, 124 00:06:28,860 --> 00:06:30,630 to not sugar coat this. 125 00:06:30,630 --> 00:06:34,050 It's important to think about as we move forward 126 00:06:34,050 --> 00:06:36,890 with wisdom and compassion, what are we to do? 127 00:06:36,890 --> 00:06:40,260 So there's a beautiful article that has this quote, 128 00:06:40,260 --> 00:06:43,970 the concepts of healing and recovery can be misleading 129 00:06:43,970 --> 00:06:45,840 as they imply that all traces 130 00:06:45,840 --> 00:06:48,190 of the adversity will disappear. 131 00:06:48,190 --> 00:06:52,270 Integration allows one to honor the experience of adversity 132 00:06:52,270 --> 00:06:55,150 and incorporate it into one's life story, 133 00:06:55,150 --> 00:06:57,770 identity and experience. 134 00:06:57,770 --> 00:07:02,770 So basically, what I'm hoping we'll do 135 00:07:03,530 --> 00:07:06,520 is remember that we as the adults who work 136 00:07:06,520 --> 00:07:09,540 in our school communities, we are strong enough 137 00:07:09,540 --> 00:07:12,910 and capable of holding competing truths. 138 00:07:12,910 --> 00:07:16,010 So competing truths, for example, one competing truth 139 00:07:16,010 --> 00:07:18,290 that I'm currently holding as the mom 140 00:07:18,290 --> 00:07:22,430 of two teenage daughters, and as a professional psychologist 141 00:07:22,430 --> 00:07:25,160 who works with many, many, many teenagers, 142 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,720 the competing truths that I'm holding are, 143 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:30,900 I am deeply worried about how this situation 144 00:07:30,900 --> 00:07:32,400 has impacted them. 145 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:37,182 I am going to work incredibly hard next school year 146 00:07:37,182 --> 00:07:40,780 to listen to every person's story 147 00:07:40,780 --> 00:07:44,770 that I can get my hands on, validate that impact 148 00:07:44,770 --> 00:07:47,456 and think about action planning towards supporting 149 00:07:47,456 --> 00:07:51,890 them to move forward in an integrated way. 150 00:07:51,890 --> 00:07:55,695 I simultaneously to being deeply worried about impact. 151 00:07:55,695 --> 00:08:00,320 I am also incredibly hopeful and inspired and cannot wait 152 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:02,030 to see what they do as adults, 153 00:08:02,030 --> 00:08:04,610 because I simultaneously believe that they are going 154 00:08:04,610 --> 00:08:07,960 to be remarkable people because of this. 155 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:10,503 So it's not one or the other, it's really both. 156 00:08:11,970 --> 00:08:16,960 So you could think about, as you move into next school year, 157 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:19,710 what are some examples of how you might do that? 158 00:08:19,710 --> 00:08:21,980 And so one of the things that we know is that 159 00:08:21,980 --> 00:08:26,960 when we are in a situation of prolonged uncertainty, 160 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:31,300 if we are in a situation where we have been feeling fearful, 161 00:08:31,300 --> 00:08:34,187 a student said to me this year, when I said, 162 00:08:34,187 --> 00:08:35,670 "How are you feeling?" 163 00:08:35,670 --> 00:08:37,877 He thought for a little bit, and he said, 164 00:08:37,877 --> 00:08:40,290 "Bored and scared". 165 00:08:40,290 --> 00:08:42,930 Bored, and scared, you don't wanna feel those two things 166 00:08:42,930 --> 00:08:43,810 at the same time. 167 00:08:43,810 --> 00:08:45,160 That's really hard. 168 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:46,710 And it was so wise. 169 00:08:46,710 --> 00:08:50,400 I was like, yes, I actually important, scared too. 170 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:51,690 That's really hard. 171 00:08:51,690 --> 00:08:56,460 So he's putting words to this kind of frozen passive stance 172 00:08:56,460 --> 00:08:59,860 that you inevitably might take when you are 173 00:08:59,860 --> 00:09:02,550 in a situation where things keep changing 174 00:09:02,550 --> 00:09:04,840 and there's an ambiguous threat. 175 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:08,640 So, we wanna move toward reclaiming our story 176 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:09,670 and integrating this. 177 00:09:09,670 --> 00:09:13,320 And part of that is empowering the voices of our students. 178 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,540 The four-year-olds, the three-year-olds all the way up 179 00:09:15,540 --> 00:09:18,500 to the 18, 19-year olds and everything in between. 180 00:09:18,500 --> 00:09:20,120 So, some of the things that you might do 181 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:22,080 is ask your students to talk, think, 182 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:25,200 and write about what does belonging mean to you now? 183 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,010 What does it mean to belong? 184 00:09:27,010 --> 00:09:29,950 What is your experience of living through COVID informed 185 00:09:29,950 --> 00:09:31,950 you about what it truly means to make sure 186 00:09:31,950 --> 00:09:33,980 that every member of this classroom 187 00:09:33,980 --> 00:09:37,630 and this school community feels as though they belong. 188 00:09:37,630 --> 00:09:39,750 We could ask them to talk, right and think 189 00:09:39,750 --> 00:09:41,020 about what have they discovered 190 00:09:41,020 --> 00:09:42,830 about themselves as a learner? 191 00:09:42,830 --> 00:09:45,430 They've clearly, I'm sure learned some things 192 00:09:45,430 --> 00:09:47,610 about the way in which they learn best, 193 00:09:47,610 --> 00:09:51,040 and then we should actively take what they articulate 194 00:09:51,040 --> 00:09:54,320 and have that influence the way in which we teach 195 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:57,970 that specific group of students and that student. 196 00:09:57,970 --> 00:10:01,970 We should invite students to have voice 197 00:10:01,970 --> 00:10:05,050 and influence over multiple paths 198 00:10:05,050 --> 00:10:07,190 for participation and engagement. 199 00:10:07,190 --> 00:10:10,240 We have had to be incredibly flexible and creative 200 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:13,430 about how we could offer opportunity to participate 201 00:10:13,430 --> 00:10:14,880 and engage in learning. 202 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:19,090 We can bring all of that back into a classroom. 203 00:10:19,090 --> 00:10:21,210 What are the 10 ways that you could show me 204 00:10:21,210 --> 00:10:23,820 that you're participating and that you're engaged. 205 00:10:23,820 --> 00:10:26,260 And speaking is only one. 206 00:10:26,260 --> 00:10:27,850 So, what are all the other ways, 207 00:10:27,850 --> 00:10:31,300 and make sure that we're inviting those voices in. 208 00:10:31,300 --> 00:10:33,910 The basic foundation of this is meeting students 209 00:10:33,910 --> 00:10:37,040 where they are, which is of course a foundational element 210 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:41,450 of MTSS and PBIS. 211 00:10:41,450 --> 00:10:46,450 So, that's thinking about the community narrative 212 00:10:46,650 --> 00:10:49,140 and thinking about our students' narrative. 213 00:10:49,140 --> 00:10:54,090 But first this summer, I would invite you, welcome you 214 00:10:54,090 --> 00:10:56,920 to think first about your story. 215 00:10:56,920 --> 00:11:00,860 Because we always do best when we apply these concepts first 216 00:11:00,860 --> 00:11:03,850 to ourselves, and then to our immediate realm, 217 00:11:03,850 --> 00:11:05,900 our immediate family, immediate circle, 218 00:11:05,900 --> 00:11:08,580 and then to our professional circle 219 00:11:08,580 --> 00:11:10,500 and our larger community. 220 00:11:10,500 --> 00:11:12,960 So, let's first think about how might you tend 221 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:15,130 to your own story. 222 00:11:15,130 --> 00:11:18,950 So, this summer, maybe ask yourself, 223 00:11:18,950 --> 00:11:22,120 what is the meaning that I am making of this experience? 224 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:24,110 What did I, I just thought about 225 00:11:24,110 --> 00:11:26,530 this incredible brainstorm list 226 00:11:26,530 --> 00:11:28,710 of what our students learned this year, 227 00:11:28,710 --> 00:11:30,110 what did I learn? 228 00:11:30,110 --> 00:11:32,620 And think about really consolidating that 229 00:11:32,620 --> 00:11:34,180 and appreciating that. 230 00:11:34,180 --> 00:11:37,650 So I would offer, as an example, when I ask myself, 231 00:11:37,650 --> 00:11:38,770 what is my story? 232 00:11:38,770 --> 00:11:40,190 What is the meaning that I'm making? 233 00:11:40,190 --> 00:11:43,560 I can give you my example, which might be very similar 234 00:11:43,560 --> 00:11:46,680 to some of you and super different to others, if you will. 235 00:11:46,680 --> 00:11:48,630 Each gonna have her own story. 236 00:11:48,630 --> 00:11:51,440 So, my story is that I'm a good kind of tired. 237 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,756 It's Thursday. 238 00:11:53,756 --> 00:11:58,756 I'm about to have a vacation for the first time in 16 months 239 00:11:59,300 --> 00:12:01,370 of incredible work. 240 00:12:01,370 --> 00:12:06,260 And I feel like this, I feel like I did when I was a kid, 241 00:12:06,260 --> 00:12:08,560 growing up on a sheep farm. 242 00:12:08,560 --> 00:12:12,560 And when you grow up on a farm, there are a handful 243 00:12:12,560 --> 00:12:17,240 of days every year where you do incredibly big tasks 244 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:18,120 as a group. 245 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:21,810 And so one of those was when we would hay the field. 246 00:12:21,810 --> 00:12:25,240 This was a bunch of years ago on a really small farm. 247 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:29,360 So we had like the square hay bales that shot out 248 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:33,300 of the hay baler around the field, and we had to run around 249 00:12:33,300 --> 00:12:36,560 and pick them up and throw them on the wagon and stack them. 250 00:12:36,560 --> 00:12:40,710 And then we had to by hand unload all the hay bales 251 00:12:40,710 --> 00:12:42,110 into the barn. 252 00:12:42,110 --> 00:12:47,110 So at the end of those days, I would be standing outside 253 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:51,560 of the barn, having just completed along with my family, 254 00:12:51,560 --> 00:12:54,000 this big haying the field day. 255 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:57,680 And on my farm, the barn was at the bottom of a hill 256 00:12:57,680 --> 00:13:00,730 and a very steep hill, the house was at the top. 257 00:13:00,730 --> 00:13:05,730 So, I have a very visual and sensory and kind 258 00:13:05,870 --> 00:13:07,960 of full complete body memory of standing 259 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:10,100 at the bottom of the hill, looking up at the house, 260 00:13:10,100 --> 00:13:13,560 wanting to be in the house in the shower. 261 00:13:13,560 --> 00:13:15,580 So, all I wanted to do was figure out how 262 00:13:15,580 --> 00:13:17,570 to find the energy, to crawl up the hill 263 00:13:17,570 --> 00:13:18,910 and get to the house. 264 00:13:18,910 --> 00:13:21,740 But I remember standing there and usually I needed a minute 265 00:13:21,740 --> 00:13:24,080 to kind of find the energy to climb up the hill. 266 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:27,900 And while I stood there, I remember feeling exhausted, 267 00:13:27,900 --> 00:13:30,370 a bit beat up, cut and bruised. 268 00:13:30,370 --> 00:13:32,820 I remember feeling incredibly proud 269 00:13:32,820 --> 00:13:34,970 of what we had just accomplished. 270 00:13:34,970 --> 00:13:37,700 I remember feeling this sense of strong connection 271 00:13:37,700 --> 00:13:40,120 to my family 'cause we did it before. 272 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:43,160 Even though it was really hard, we actually would laugh 273 00:13:43,160 --> 00:13:45,390 and have a lot of fun at different times. 274 00:13:45,390 --> 00:13:49,520 And so I remember feeling sort of joyful, tired, beat up. 275 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:51,700 I also remember feeling a little bit of resentment 276 00:13:51,700 --> 00:13:54,200 that my parents didn't get more people to help us. 277 00:13:55,150 --> 00:13:58,530 So, I just was like, you know, a mixture of emotion 278 00:13:58,530 --> 00:14:01,220 and then I would start the climb up the hill. 279 00:14:01,220 --> 00:14:05,150 So this feeling I have right now is very familiar 280 00:14:05,150 --> 00:14:08,580 to me from those kinds of good kind of tired moments. 281 00:14:08,580 --> 00:14:10,890 You might say yes, do I connect with that. 282 00:14:10,890 --> 00:14:13,930 You might also say it's not actually a good kind of tired 283 00:14:13,930 --> 00:14:15,660 at all, and that's okay. 284 00:14:15,660 --> 00:14:18,620 Whatever your story is, is your story. 285 00:14:18,620 --> 00:14:22,750 And that's what you're kind of starting to put words to 286 00:14:22,750 --> 00:14:26,390 and think about what is the meaning I'm making, 287 00:14:26,390 --> 00:14:30,880 and over time, can I think about reinforcing 288 00:14:30,880 --> 00:14:34,113 and moving it toward that resilient narrative? 289 00:14:36,410 --> 00:14:41,410 So, a really important part of moving into the summer 290 00:14:42,030 --> 00:14:43,910 and then moving into next school year 291 00:14:43,910 --> 00:14:47,460 is gonna be thinking about pace and curiosity. 292 00:14:47,460 --> 00:14:51,318 So, there's a beautiful book, "My Grandmother's Hands" 293 00:14:51,318 --> 00:14:54,130 written by a trauma therapist. 294 00:14:54,130 --> 00:14:56,367 And one of the quotes in the book is, 295 00:14:56,367 --> 00:14:59,367 "Healing from adversity includes shifting 296 00:14:59,367 --> 00:15:04,350 "from speed and reflexivity to a slower pace and curiosity." 297 00:15:04,350 --> 00:15:08,260 So, when you are responding to adversity, 298 00:15:08,260 --> 00:15:11,990 everyone no doubt in this meeting right now 299 00:15:11,990 --> 00:15:16,260 has for the last 16 months risen to the occasion. 300 00:15:16,260 --> 00:15:19,310 You have clearly stepped up, worked hard 301 00:15:19,310 --> 00:15:22,450 than at a strong pace to meet the demands. 302 00:15:22,450 --> 00:15:25,745 And so when you do that, you're probably going 303 00:15:25,745 --> 00:15:30,400 in many cases fast and you're reacting, reacting, reacting. 304 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:34,820 You won't shift likely 'cause you've been doing that 305 00:15:34,820 --> 00:15:38,530 for so long in a pretty admirable way. 306 00:15:38,530 --> 00:15:43,370 You won't likely shift unless you do so intentionally. 307 00:15:43,370 --> 00:15:44,690 So what are the ways? 308 00:15:44,690 --> 00:15:48,020 I would ask you, what are the ways over the next few weeks 309 00:15:48,020 --> 00:15:52,420 that you are going to slow down and shift 310 00:15:52,420 --> 00:15:57,420 from reaction to response, from reaction to curiosity? 311 00:15:57,660 --> 00:16:01,770 And that pacing is not only gonna be essential for you 312 00:16:01,770 --> 00:16:05,980 and your wellbeing, you deserve to be well in these jobs 313 00:16:05,980 --> 00:16:09,450 all the way through next year, not just this summer. 314 00:16:09,450 --> 00:16:11,830 And that pacing is gonna be essential 315 00:16:11,830 --> 00:16:14,740 to the wellbeing of the young people that you're gonna work 316 00:16:14,740 --> 00:16:16,600 with next year. 317 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:20,580 So, you're likely really good at reading a room of people 318 00:16:20,580 --> 00:16:23,760 because you work in a helping profession. 319 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:27,830 I would strongly, strongly encourage you next year, 320 00:16:27,830 --> 00:16:30,050 if you remember, only one thing that I say, 321 00:16:30,050 --> 00:16:31,650 please remember this. 322 00:16:31,650 --> 00:16:34,290 Set the pace based on the needs 323 00:16:34,290 --> 00:16:35,960 of the humans in front of you. 324 00:16:35,960 --> 00:16:39,970 Cornelius said, "People first, policy second". 325 00:16:39,970 --> 00:16:42,860 It's brave, I get it, it's brave. 326 00:16:42,860 --> 00:16:45,640 I'm not a teacher, but I work with teachers. 327 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:48,010 I spend most of my time with all of you. 328 00:16:48,010 --> 00:16:52,610 I know that it is brave for you to say curriculum timelines 329 00:16:52,610 --> 00:16:56,200 aside for a moment, I'm gonna spend more time just talking 330 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:58,500 with this group of people, because I can tell that 331 00:16:58,500 --> 00:16:59,580 that's what we need. 332 00:16:59,580 --> 00:17:01,210 We're gonna play a little bit more. 333 00:17:01,210 --> 00:17:02,930 We're gonna laugh a little bit more. 334 00:17:02,930 --> 00:17:04,950 We're gonna learn a little bit more because 335 00:17:04,950 --> 00:17:07,630 that's what this group of people needs right now. 336 00:17:07,630 --> 00:17:10,280 We will accomplish the most. 337 00:17:10,280 --> 00:17:14,030 If we pace each and every day, based on the needs 338 00:17:14,030 --> 00:17:15,580 of the human in front of you. 339 00:17:15,580 --> 00:17:20,580 In order for you to be able to do that first this summer, 340 00:17:20,830 --> 00:17:24,310 it will be really important for you to shift gears. 341 00:17:24,310 --> 00:17:28,280 And intentionally think about, I don't know what gear 342 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:31,550 your summer needs, and I don't know what gear 343 00:17:31,550 --> 00:17:32,620 you wanna be in. 344 00:17:32,620 --> 00:17:34,770 That's not mine to say. 345 00:17:34,770 --> 00:17:38,280 My own only request is that whatever gear you're in, 346 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:42,080 it's intentional, intentionally set that pace. 347 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:45,590 So part of how you do that is when you have moments. 348 00:17:45,590 --> 00:17:47,600 And some of you will have very busy summers. 349 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:49,140 So I recognize that. 350 00:17:49,140 --> 00:17:53,010 But when you have moments where it's five minutes 351 00:17:53,010 --> 00:17:58,010 or five hours where there is not demand on you, 352 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:03,380 take space from input, allow yourself that space, 353 00:18:03,380 --> 00:18:04,720 where you're not having, 354 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:07,610 you're not welcoming information and input. 355 00:18:07,610 --> 00:18:10,160 And you're just kind of sitting in that space 356 00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:12,340 to think about the meaning that you're making 357 00:18:12,340 --> 00:18:14,720 and think about the pace that you're going 358 00:18:14,720 --> 00:18:16,593 and where you want that to be at. 359 00:18:17,670 --> 00:18:21,640 There's a lot of attention, rightly so to mindfulness. 360 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:25,960 It's one of the most powerful and health promoting things 361 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:27,610 that we can do for ourselves and others, 362 00:18:27,610 --> 00:18:29,970 and mindfulness is awareness that arises 363 00:18:29,970 --> 00:18:32,610 with paying attention on purpose 364 00:18:32,610 --> 00:18:34,690 in the present moment, non-judgmentally. 365 00:18:34,690 --> 00:18:37,040 So, you might do something like meditation, 366 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:40,010 where you turn inward and that's mindful. 367 00:18:40,010 --> 00:18:43,820 You also might find that when you turn inward, 368 00:18:43,820 --> 00:18:46,860 it's quite dysregulating, because what's going on 369 00:18:46,860 --> 00:18:51,140 in there is really a lot of worry and turmoil and stress. 370 00:18:51,140 --> 00:18:53,860 And so you might find actually what you need 371 00:18:53,860 --> 00:18:54,693 is mindlessness. 372 00:18:55,930 --> 00:18:57,615 If you wanna read more about that, 373 00:18:57,615 --> 00:19:01,440 there's some information linked in the article here. 374 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:06,440 Mindlessness is intentionally distracting yourself 375 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:12,050 in something that's healthy, cooking, gardening, exercising, 376 00:19:12,050 --> 00:19:14,720 something that gives you cognitive distraction, 377 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:17,070 pulls you outside of your mind. 378 00:19:17,070 --> 00:19:19,500 So you might need mindfulness. 379 00:19:19,500 --> 00:19:21,193 You might need mindlessness, 380 00:19:21,193 --> 00:19:23,760 you'll probably need some combination of both. 381 00:19:23,760 --> 00:19:26,780 And you wanna practice anchoring yourself, 382 00:19:26,780 --> 00:19:29,950 at a pace that you set, despite 383 00:19:29,950 --> 00:19:31,800 what's going on around you. 384 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,910 Maybe go to Costco on a rainy Saturday and see 385 00:19:34,910 --> 00:19:37,360 if you can't shop slowly, even though everyone 386 00:19:37,360 --> 00:19:39,130 is running around around you. 387 00:19:39,130 --> 00:19:42,860 Practice intentionally setting that pace and holding to it 388 00:19:42,860 --> 00:19:45,810 because you're gonna need that next year, if we're all going 389 00:19:45,810 --> 00:19:48,720 to slow down and go at a pace based on the needs 390 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:50,403 of the humans in front of us. 391 00:19:51,300 --> 00:19:56,050 So, I want to have us think about one more thing 392 00:19:56,050 --> 00:19:57,413 before I wrap up. 393 00:19:58,250 --> 00:20:02,040 And so I want you to think about and write in the chat, 394 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:03,900 could you think of a metaphor 395 00:20:04,860 --> 00:20:07,770 for what your current pace is right now? 396 00:20:07,770 --> 00:20:12,150 In my example is a horse that's hurdling through, 397 00:20:12,150 --> 00:20:13,433 you know, like a ring. 398 00:20:14,460 --> 00:20:18,650 Could you think of a metaphor for a pace that would help 399 00:20:18,650 --> 00:20:22,750 you be well, and then sync with your goals this summer? 400 00:20:22,750 --> 00:20:24,740 The metaphor I have is a sloth. 401 00:20:24,740 --> 00:20:26,603 That's what I would like to be this summer. 402 00:20:26,603 --> 00:20:29,540 I would like to go from the horse, that's leaping her left 403 00:20:29,540 --> 00:20:30,900 to hurdle to a sloth. 404 00:20:30,900 --> 00:20:34,360 You might not want to be a sloth at all, no problem. 405 00:20:34,360 --> 00:20:38,670 Could you think of a metaphor for the pace that would help 406 00:20:38,670 --> 00:20:40,930 you be well and then sync with your goals as you move 407 00:20:40,930 --> 00:20:42,420 into next year? 408 00:20:42,420 --> 00:20:45,320 So, if you could write those in the chat, 409 00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:46,330 that would be awesome. 410 00:20:46,330 --> 00:20:48,310 We'll just spend a minutes looking 411 00:20:48,310 --> 00:20:51,413 at what people's metaphors are and then we'll wrap up. 412 00:21:01,677 --> 00:21:03,844 Ooh, a gentle rain shower. 413 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:13,283 Oh wow. 414 00:21:14,670 --> 00:21:19,150 An 18 wheeler trying to gear down, but traveling downhill. 415 00:21:19,150 --> 00:21:20,723 That is powerful. 416 00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:23,273 Lazy river. 417 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:34,560 Oh, we're deep under ground. 418 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:35,393 I love it. 419 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,750 Well incredible. 420 00:21:57,750 --> 00:21:58,900 Absolutely. 421 00:21:58,900 --> 00:22:01,860 What an incredible, I mean, no surprise that this group 422 00:22:01,860 --> 00:22:04,350 of people is incredibly visual and creative. 423 00:22:04,350 --> 00:22:05,863 These are amazing. 424 00:22:07,830 --> 00:22:08,740 A babe late. 425 00:22:08,740 --> 00:22:09,833 I love it, Phillip. 426 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:13,960 Oh, amenity. 427 00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:15,403 That's awesome. 428 00:22:16,490 --> 00:22:18,872 Keep going, don't let me stop you. 429 00:22:18,872 --> 00:22:23,660 The idea of creating these metaphors and you could do this 430 00:22:23,660 --> 00:22:26,197 with your students in the fall as well as, 431 00:22:26,197 --> 00:22:28,680 kids of any age it's really think about 432 00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:31,760 the metaphor because the visual metaphor is grounding. 433 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:35,500 If you've decided like I wanna be a tortoise this summer, 434 00:22:35,500 --> 00:22:39,450 and then it's like July 13th, then you're running around, 435 00:22:39,450 --> 00:22:40,740 the house you could be like, wait, 436 00:22:40,740 --> 00:22:42,290 is this tortoise? 437 00:22:42,290 --> 00:22:44,200 Am I tortoise right now? 438 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,120 So think about that metaphor. 439 00:22:46,120 --> 00:22:49,110 Think about that visual and have that be sort of 440 00:22:49,980 --> 00:22:53,630 an anchoring grounding force for you as you move. 441 00:22:53,630 --> 00:22:57,350 And you're gonna have to go through some transition 442 00:22:57,350 --> 00:22:59,480 I would predict from where you're at now 443 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:00,650 to where you wanna be the summer 444 00:23:00,650 --> 00:23:02,340 to where you wanna be next fall. 445 00:23:02,340 --> 00:23:05,450 I wanna say this again, it is possible for you 446 00:23:05,450 --> 00:23:08,600 to do this work and be well, and you deserve to be well. 447 00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:11,240 When we think about community resilience, remember 448 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:14,160 the definition of resilience in part is that it is 449 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:17,550 the responsibility of the community to make sure 450 00:23:17,550 --> 00:23:20,170 that every individual of that community is resilient. 451 00:23:20,170 --> 00:23:23,790 It is not an individual responsibility. 452 00:23:23,790 --> 00:23:28,030 So, we want you to think about how you will be well 453 00:23:28,030 --> 00:23:31,101 and how we will move into next school year. 454 00:23:31,101 --> 00:23:34,960 What Cornelius said about people first policy, second, 455 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:36,760 I'm gonna remember that. 456 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:38,370 It is about our community. 457 00:23:38,370 --> 00:23:41,430 First, we're gonna slow down and connect with each other 458 00:23:41,430 --> 00:23:44,860 and appreciate that we are incredibly strong 459 00:23:44,860 --> 00:23:49,010 and incredibly impacted by what we all just endured. 460 00:23:49,010 --> 00:23:50,330 This is not a race. 461 00:23:50,330 --> 00:23:51,470 It's a pandemic. 462 00:23:51,470 --> 00:23:52,773 There's no winning. 463 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:57,440 And no one is behind and no one is catching up. 464 00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:00,070 We're just meeting people where they're at 465 00:24:00,070 --> 00:24:02,520 and we're moving forward from that place. 466 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:04,830 Wherever you're at right now in this moment 467 00:24:04,830 --> 00:24:06,040 is just where you're at. 468 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,670 Meet yourself there and move forward 469 00:24:08,670 --> 00:24:10,403 at whatever pace you need. 470 00:24:11,260 --> 00:24:13,290 So, I want to 471 00:24:14,540 --> 00:24:18,320 thank all of you for the incredible, incredible work 472 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:19,153 that you all did. 473 00:24:19,153 --> 00:24:22,410 I have the privilege to bear witness to all of your efforts. 474 00:24:22,410 --> 00:24:24,880 Many of your efforts, working with all the schools 475 00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:29,190 that I do, and it is an unbelievable inspiration 476 00:24:29,190 --> 00:24:30,930 to see how hard everyone worked. 477 00:24:30,930 --> 00:24:33,560 I wish all of you, whatever your version 478 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,880 of joyful rejuvenation is this summer. 479 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,800 And I appreciate having been able to have a moment 480 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:40,780 with you now. 481 00:24:40,780 --> 00:24:41,893 Thanks so much. 482 00:24:45,180 --> 00:24:46,630 - [Woman] Thank you so much, Joelle. 483 00:24:46,630 --> 00:24:49,420 I forgot until you started that you made me cry 484 00:24:49,420 --> 00:24:51,460 when you were just telling us what this keynote 485 00:24:51,460 --> 00:24:52,470 was gonna be about. 486 00:24:52,470 --> 00:24:55,713 So, I'm sure others are in my vote. 487 00:24:56,680 --> 00:24:59,700 Many, many thank you's in the chat for you. 488 00:24:59,700 --> 00:25:01,620 And I mentioned the chat. 489 00:25:01,620 --> 00:25:04,330 I encouraged you well to go over time. 490 00:25:04,330 --> 00:25:06,890 So, we are gonna start strands at 9:05 491 00:25:06,890 --> 00:25:08,890 to give you enough of a time of a break. 492 00:25:11,110 --> 00:25:13,503 Tracy's weepy too, not just me. 493 00:25:14,826 --> 00:25:17,480 And we hope you've had a great week. 494 00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:20,340 We hope you close out your strand well today 495 00:25:20,340 --> 00:25:23,710 and your team time that you're feeling accomplished, 496 00:25:23,710 --> 00:25:26,850 but also positive and rejuvenated. 497 00:25:26,850 --> 00:25:30,170 So, thank you so much for your attendance at the institute, 498 00:25:30,170 --> 00:25:33,233 and we hope to see you next year at Killington's.